Feeling stuck? How to reclaim your power when life feels out of your hands

You can’t always control what happens - but you can choose how you respond. Here’s how to make empowered choices.

Sometimes, when we’re in a rut or we life isn’t flowing as smoothly as we’d like, we may feel powerless or stuck. We may feel like outside influences are forcing us into situations we’d rather not be in. And sometimes, that can be true.

We cannot control the world around us. We cannot control other people’s behaviour, we cannot control the times when shitty things happen - and they happen to all of us - and we cannot control other people’s choices which may impact on our own lives.

What we can control, is how we respond to it. Yes, I know, I’ve rolled my eyes when I’ve heard this too. I know it’s easier said than done. But what I’ve discovered, in my 45+ years on this earth, is that we feel powerless when we hand over our power to these outside influences. Whether that’s a partner who isn’t showing up in the way we’d like, or the unfulfilling job, the ill health, the struggles with parenting, crazy neighbours, conflict with family etc etc.

Because even in the midst of the most challenging circumstances - we do still have a choice. We can let those outside influences get to us, or we can maintain our own inner peace and realise how we respond to these things is ultimately going to determine how we feel.

Yes, it sucks when crappy things happen. They happen to me too! I’m not suggesting everyone adopts the stance of an Ostrich and buries ones head in the sand and “pretend” everything is peachy when it clearly isn’t.

That is emotional suppression and the very opposite of Homeopathy and healthy relating.

What I am suggesting, is that we become so rooted in our own self-worth, and so strong in our own sense of self, that despite the outside influences - because there will always be outside influences - that we maintain our grounded-ness regardless.